Kintsugi Company
We can’t afford to self-medicate negative emotions away with alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, food, video gaming, and social media. You name it – most of us know where our weaknesses lie. We realize we need to face those difficult emotions somehow or other, perhaps through therapy or other means. We must be honest and deal with whatever’s going on, including our feelings.
At Tigress’ Roar, we welcome you into a group that’s been there, done that, and continues to learn and grow. We’re doing something most wouldn’t even attempt because it seems too hard. But we’re on a journey together, offering encouragement when someone gets confused or frustrated or wants to give up. Realizing we can’t do this alone, we link arms and move forward together. Because it’s just that important, and we know it.
We may think we sound fierce! But we sound like a lion cub squeaking out a baby roar. We need to learn and practice in a safe place so that when some nasty person comes at us, we’re already taking charge and using our voice appropriately.
I think the toughest concept to understand is how coddling oneself isn’t self- care. It’s actually destructive. We think indulging ourselves means we love ourselves. Society even encourages this behavior. The general consensus is, “If it feels good, do it.” But with no limits, doing what feels good to you can destroy you. That’s how addictions are born. Anything we do, particularly coddling behaviors, can become unbalanced.
I often say that supernaturally I’m an emotionally sensitive person. Naturally, however, I’m not. I can easily detach from everything. This has been a helpful tool when I’ve gone through some difficult times, especially in times of intensive therapy. But I can’t use it for what did in the past.
It’s just as important to love ourselves as it is to love others. Loving your neighbor as yourself indicates that. When the emphasis is placed on the neighbor and not ourselves, the idea can become distorted. Are we to hate ourselves? Or be indifferent? No. We are to love ourselves as God loves us. We are “neighbors” as much as anyone else. And we are loved.